...just like Hansel. (Zoolander fans? anyone?)
Well, regardless if you get the movie reference, Corps Pilates and Triune have been placed on Fox 29's "Hot List" of local Philadelphia businesses. Patrons will be voting for their favorite area businesses by category to find the best in Philadelphia! Vote for Corps Pilates with Steffi Freedman in the Pilates category and Triune in the Massage category at http://myfoxphilly.cityvoter.com/!
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Learning to "Fight Fair"
Greetings!
This is my first post to the Triune Blog! I am really excited about sharing with you some of the topics that I consider most important to our becoming a balanced, holistic individual. Developing the knowledge and skill set to manage our relationships effectively serve many purposes, including self-respect and the respect of others in our life. When we become upset or angry, we often do not have the essential skills to turn this negative emotional experience into a catalyst for change and transformation; inevitably, the "problems" become repetitious and we drift apart out of frustration...in essence, we give up! We don't come to resolution, get our needs met, and experience satisfying, loving partnerships.
Learning to "fight fair" is an important skill to develop so that we may turn "lead" into "gold"!!
Dr. Sherri Edelman, Clinical Psychologist and Licensed Counselor
LEARNING TO FIGHT FAIR
Q: How do you know if you need to learn more about fair fighting? Here is an example of dialogue between a couple.
David: Hi, how was your day?
Sandy: Fine, how was yours?
David: Terrible, I don’t think I’m going to make the quota for the company trip to Hawaii.
Sandy: Listen, don’t make yourself too comfortable, because I made a reservation for dinner and we have to be there in fifteen minutes.
David: Are you serious? I’m not feeling at all like going out!
Sandy: What do you mean? It’s all arranged. I had to move mountains to get this reservation!
David: It wasn’t arranged with me! I don’t know where you’re going with this. I’m exhausted and depressed and I’m not going anywhere. Anyway, we’re broke.
Sandy: You always say you’re tired, and you never want to go out anywhere anymore. I’m trapped in this house all day, and then stuck in it all night because we don’t have any money. I’m sick of it and we’re going out!
They are excellent candidates for learning fair fighting: when we need to deal with intimates about important issues where there is a conflict or disagreement, we need to develop skills and strategies.
Q: What is it that you are trying to accomplish with fair fighting?
Fair Fighting has two functions:
1)negotiate for change in a particular situation, OR
2)disclose something that upsets you without requiring any change that needs to be made
Fair Fighting is an art and a skill like dancing, not a bull fight. The style of the fight is more important than the content.
Fighting and expressing anger are seen as healthy ways of removing back up and interference so couples can regroup and become more intimate again.
Q: How will learning to Fight Fair be beneficial?
Benefits for learning to fight fair:
1)greater self knowledge
2)freedom
3)security
4)power
5)INTIMACY
Also, you develop the skills to be more self-reflective and self-responsible about your own negative emotions!
Q: What are the steps one would need to take to “Fight Fair”?
Fight For Change
Learn the “Rules of Fair Fighting”
Learn about “Special Purpose Fights”
Often an objective person is helpful in the early stages of learning and practicing these skills. Consider some support, if even for a brief time, until you are on your way to a new way of relating...fairly!!
Dr. Sherri Edelman
This is my first post to the Triune Blog! I am really excited about sharing with you some of the topics that I consider most important to our becoming a balanced, holistic individual. Developing the knowledge and skill set to manage our relationships effectively serve many purposes, including self-respect and the respect of others in our life. When we become upset or angry, we often do not have the essential skills to turn this negative emotional experience into a catalyst for change and transformation; inevitably, the "problems" become repetitious and we drift apart out of frustration...in essence, we give up! We don't come to resolution, get our needs met, and experience satisfying, loving partnerships.
Learning to "fight fair" is an important skill to develop so that we may turn "lead" into "gold"!!
Dr. Sherri Edelman, Clinical Psychologist and Licensed Counselor
LEARNING TO FIGHT FAIR
Q: How do you know if you need to learn more about fair fighting? Here is an example of dialogue between a couple.
David: Hi, how was your day?
Sandy: Fine, how was yours?
David: Terrible, I don’t think I’m going to make the quota for the company trip to Hawaii.
Sandy: Listen, don’t make yourself too comfortable, because I made a reservation for dinner and we have to be there in fifteen minutes.
David: Are you serious? I’m not feeling at all like going out!
Sandy: What do you mean? It’s all arranged. I had to move mountains to get this reservation!
David: It wasn’t arranged with me! I don’t know where you’re going with this. I’m exhausted and depressed and I’m not going anywhere. Anyway, we’re broke.
Sandy: You always say you’re tired, and you never want to go out anywhere anymore. I’m trapped in this house all day, and then stuck in it all night because we don’t have any money. I’m sick of it and we’re going out!
They are excellent candidates for learning fair fighting: when we need to deal with intimates about important issues where there is a conflict or disagreement, we need to develop skills and strategies.
Q: What is it that you are trying to accomplish with fair fighting?
Fair Fighting has two functions:
1)negotiate for change in a particular situation, OR
2)disclose something that upsets you without requiring any change that needs to be made
Fair Fighting is an art and a skill like dancing, not a bull fight. The style of the fight is more important than the content.
Fighting and expressing anger are seen as healthy ways of removing back up and interference so couples can regroup and become more intimate again.
Q: How will learning to Fight Fair be beneficial?
Benefits for learning to fight fair:
1)greater self knowledge
2)freedom
3)security
4)power
5)INTIMACY
Also, you develop the skills to be more self-reflective and self-responsible about your own negative emotions!
Q: What are the steps one would need to take to “Fight Fair”?
Fight For Change
Learn the “Rules of Fair Fighting”
Learn about “Special Purpose Fights”
Often an objective person is helpful in the early stages of learning and practicing these skills. Consider some support, if even for a brief time, until you are on your way to a new way of relating...fairly!!
Dr. Sherri Edelman
Tom in Peru!
For those of you who remember Tom, (one of Triune's amazing massage therapists), you'll be excited to hear he is well into Peru trip, giving us updates on his daily adventures through his blog. Check it out his blog and he will enlighten you with stories of Teddy Ruxbin's evil twin, acquaint you with chicha, and show you his house on google earth. In his first blog, Tom describes his extensive journey just to get to Peru: "four trains to get to New York, a flight from JFK to San Salvador, San Salvador to Lima, a 12 hour layover in Lima, followed by a flight from Lima to Cusco". My back aches just thinking about it.
Find out what excursion he is on today...Peru O Busto
-Rita
Find out what excursion he is on today...Peru O Busto
-Rita
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Dr. Edelman's Friend: Simon Says
Brilliant Carat #66
Discovery Through Disruption
If you intend to experience the ultimate personal and professional life, then believe me, disruption is in your future. “Disruption” is one of the most important words for you to embrace on your journey. It first appeared in 1646 and comes from the Latin word disruptionem which means “to break apart or split.” There will come a time when you will have to break with the old to embrace the new, to let go of what is comfortable and convenient in order to grow and expand.
Disruption leads to new discoveries…if you are open, present and willing to pause and analyze what’s really going on and reflect on what you can learn from it. For individuals, disruptions present an opportunity to refocus on what matters most, to de-clutter your heart, mind and soul, and to uncover hidden seeds of brilliance within you.
For businesses, disruptions offer the chance to modify your products/services to better align with current trends or to develop inventive, alternative products/services. Shifting your business in response to or anticipation of consumer demand ensures your organization will stay relevant and stay profitable in an ever-changing economy.
History offers countless examples of disruptions that have served to break apart seemingly stable industries and put them back together in a completely different structure. In 1995, Amazon.com opened an online bookstore, positioning itself to sell directly to consumers and offering free shipping as a hook to drive loyalty. This pioneering company caused a commotion in the traditional book publishing industry and completely transformed the way books are distributed.
Fifteen years ago, most people called their local travel agent to make travel arrangements. Today, anyone with an Internet connection and a few minutes can book their own travel anywhere in the world through supplier websites and websites such as Expedia, Travelocity, Orbitz and Sidestep. Travel agents who acknowledged and proactively reacted to this disruption changed their business model and survived. Those who thought the disruption was a passing fad woke up one day to find that their marketplace had disappeared.
Then there are companies that intentionally induce their own internal disruptions in order to remain relevant and competitive. Here are a few examples:
*
Known today for its high-end jewelry and little blue box, Tiffany & Co. was in the stationery and fancy goods emporium business when it was founded in 1837.
*
World-renowned video-game maker Nintendo was established in Japan in 1889 as a maker of handmade playing cards.
*
Gucci, famous for top quality shoes and handbags, started as a small leather goods company making everything from saddles to luggage.
*
Teen clothier Abercrombie & Fitch began as an outdoor sports outfitter.
*
Fiber optics giant Corning found initial success manufacturing glass and ceramic wares.
All of these companies were flexible, nimble and insightful enough to proactively disrupt the norm and move in a new, fresh direction.
What about you? When the next disruption takes place, which side of the fence will you be on? Will you be the one initiating the disturbance or the one sitting on the other side watching it happen?
When you consider the personal impact of disruption, what comes to mind? What are you going to have to break or split from in order to fly and soar? What bold moves do you need to make in order to live your life by design rather than by default? How can you initiate a disruption?
How can you initiate a disruption?
*
Be bold and challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done before – go rock climbing or windsurfing, learn a foreign language, volunteer for an organization in a capacity outside your comfort zone.
*
Explore other professional opportunities. Check out Vocation Vacations (www.VocationVacations.com), a company that enables you to test-drive your dream job.
*
If you’re a leader, rotate leadership responsibilities among the high-potential, A-level players on your team. Allow them to be boss for a week and let them experience leadership firsthand.
Discovery happens to those hungry for change. Be open to profound disorientation (when nothing makes sense and yet there is an assurance in your soul that everything is working in your favor) as you move towards profound clarification.
Simon Believes…When you disrupt everything you believe in, you will discover everything you can be.
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Brilliant Carats is an electronic newsletter distributed to our clients and colleagues to help them sell more goods and services by developing people.
Portions of this newsletter may be reprinted in your organization or association newsletter, provided the following credit line is included:
Copyright Simon T. Bailey. Simon T. Bailey is the Catalyst of Brilliance of the Imagination Institute, which empowers businesses to sell more goods and services by releasing the brilliance of their people. He presents keynotes on high performance, customer service, engagement and inspiration. He can be reached at 972-899-3411, by e-mail at simon@simontbailey.com or by visiting his website at www.simontbailey.com.
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Discovery Through Disruption
If you intend to experience the ultimate personal and professional life, then believe me, disruption is in your future. “Disruption” is one of the most important words for you to embrace on your journey. It first appeared in 1646 and comes from the Latin word disruptionem which means “to break apart or split.” There will come a time when you will have to break with the old to embrace the new, to let go of what is comfortable and convenient in order to grow and expand.
Disruption leads to new discoveries…if you are open, present and willing to pause and analyze what’s really going on and reflect on what you can learn from it. For individuals, disruptions present an opportunity to refocus on what matters most, to de-clutter your heart, mind and soul, and to uncover hidden seeds of brilliance within you.
For businesses, disruptions offer the chance to modify your products/services to better align with current trends or to develop inventive, alternative products/services. Shifting your business in response to or anticipation of consumer demand ensures your organization will stay relevant and stay profitable in an ever-changing economy.
History offers countless examples of disruptions that have served to break apart seemingly stable industries and put them back together in a completely different structure. In 1995, Amazon.com opened an online bookstore, positioning itself to sell directly to consumers and offering free shipping as a hook to drive loyalty. This pioneering company caused a commotion in the traditional book publishing industry and completely transformed the way books are distributed.
Fifteen years ago, most people called their local travel agent to make travel arrangements. Today, anyone with an Internet connection and a few minutes can book their own travel anywhere in the world through supplier websites and websites such as Expedia, Travelocity, Orbitz and Sidestep. Travel agents who acknowledged and proactively reacted to this disruption changed their business model and survived. Those who thought the disruption was a passing fad woke up one day to find that their marketplace had disappeared.
Then there are companies that intentionally induce their own internal disruptions in order to remain relevant and competitive. Here are a few examples:
*
Known today for its high-end jewelry and little blue box, Tiffany & Co. was in the stationery and fancy goods emporium business when it was founded in 1837.
*
World-renowned video-game maker Nintendo was established in Japan in 1889 as a maker of handmade playing cards.
*
Gucci, famous for top quality shoes and handbags, started as a small leather goods company making everything from saddles to luggage.
*
Teen clothier Abercrombie & Fitch began as an outdoor sports outfitter.
*
Fiber optics giant Corning found initial success manufacturing glass and ceramic wares.
All of these companies were flexible, nimble and insightful enough to proactively disrupt the norm and move in a new, fresh direction.
What about you? When the next disruption takes place, which side of the fence will you be on? Will you be the one initiating the disturbance or the one sitting on the other side watching it happen?
When you consider the personal impact of disruption, what comes to mind? What are you going to have to break or split from in order to fly and soar? What bold moves do you need to make in order to live your life by design rather than by default? How can you initiate a disruption?
How can you initiate a disruption?
*
Be bold and challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done before – go rock climbing or windsurfing, learn a foreign language, volunteer for an organization in a capacity outside your comfort zone.
*
Explore other professional opportunities. Check out Vocation Vacations (www.VocationVacations.com), a company that enables you to test-drive your dream job.
*
If you’re a leader, rotate leadership responsibilities among the high-potential, A-level players on your team. Allow them to be boss for a week and let them experience leadership firsthand.
Discovery happens to those hungry for change. Be open to profound disorientation (when nothing makes sense and yet there is an assurance in your soul that everything is working in your favor) as you move towards profound clarification.
Simon Believes…When you disrupt everything you believe in, you will discover everything you can be.
Article Reprints
Brilliant Carats is an electronic newsletter distributed to our clients and colleagues to help them sell more goods and services by developing people.
Portions of this newsletter may be reprinted in your organization or association newsletter, provided the following credit line is included:
Copyright Simon T. Bailey. Simon T. Bailey is the Catalyst of Brilliance of the Imagination Institute, which empowers businesses to sell more goods and services by releasing the brilliance of their people. He presents keynotes on high performance, customer service, engagement and inspiration. He can be reached at 972-899-3411, by e-mail at simon@simontbailey.com or by visiting his website at www.simontbailey.com.
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Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Note on our blog
Thank you for taking the time to visit our blog. Please be patient over the next few weeks as we prepare to update the site daily with interviews, interesting facts about health and other information about local events that any of our patients or clients wish us to announce. Triune does have a lot of visibility on line. Please take advantage of this fact to let people know what is going on for you that you want others to know.
To post anything here, please contact Rita at tri-une@comcast.net to reveiw submissions and post your event or article.
Have a great 4th of July celebration.
Dr. Sklar
To post anything here, please contact Rita at tri-une@comcast.net to reveiw submissions and post your event or article.
Have a great 4th of July celebration.
Dr. Sklar
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Water in the morning
I have not had a cold that lasted longer than 1 day in the past 10 plus years. How can this be? I have an idea. Ever since I began drinking water first thing in the morning, my body responded in an optimal way. Keep in mind; I am not talking a glass of water. I started drinking 26 to 36 ounces before my first cup of coffee. I continue to hydrate throughout the day. But I believe that the morning is when we a lot of toxins and products of metabolism built up from our slumber. Washing it out quickly has worked for me for over a decade. I touch a lot of people every week of the year in my profession. I cleanse my hands and tables between every patient. But still there are antigens that are airborne.
I do not think it is just luck that I have been able to stay well. Sure I get adjusted regularly and take supplements. However, I think that many people do the same and still suffer from colds throughout the year.
Albeit, it is a tough commitment and can keep you busy. The point is that I would rather take a couple extra trips to the bathroom in a day than to feel the misery of a rhino virus or worse.
Just some food or water for thought.
I do not think it is just luck that I have been able to stay well. Sure I get adjusted regularly and take supplements. However, I think that many people do the same and still suffer from colds throughout the year.
Albeit, it is a tough commitment and can keep you busy. The point is that I would rather take a couple extra trips to the bathroom in a day than to feel the misery of a rhino virus or worse.
Just some food or water for thought.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Self Esteem - Why Do People Hate Me by Priscilla Parham
Self Esteem - Why Do People Hate Me?
By: Priscilla Parham
You've met these people before, we all have, maybe you have even fallen victim to this kind of thought or vocalization yourself a time or two. Something doesn't go your way, you didn't get the result you wanted. People you care about leave you out or forget to include you in a particular event. It could be the negative feelings you get from your co-workers, the lack of response you get from your neighbors. You are passed over for a promotion, your friend gets all the guys or girls. The list goes on and on, it is endless.
Why do people hate me?
Is it because I'm black, I'm white, I'm a minority, I'm a woman, I'm short, I'm fat, I'm gay, I'm poor, I'm uneducated, I'm a single parent, I'm pretty, I'm ugly, I'm too old, I'm too young? This list goes on and on, and is endless as well.
The simple truth is people don't hate you, it is you who hates yourself. I hear people say "Oh, but you don't know my circumstances." I don't need to know your circumstances however grim, honest and factual they may be.
As the saying goes you get back what you give or you reap what you sow, this all amounts to the Law of Attraction. A happy, healthy, content mind cannot attract hate, it is a universal impossibility. So the question is not, Why do people hate me? But now becomes "Why do I hate myself."
The answer to this question doesn't require that you lie upon a couch and give a minute by minute dissertation on your life story or go on a quest for why your mother didn't love you enough. From this point forward you and only you are responsible for your life and how you feel about it's unfoldment. However, it does require that you do some inside "work" on yourself, on your mental attitude. How you see yourself is a direct reflection on who and what will show up in your life.
Let's try this simple exercise. Close your eyes and try to blank your mind for just a minute. Now think about someone you love very dearly, they mean a lot to you, remember the good times, the laughs, the hugs, the smiles, the talks. Now try to think "I absolutely hate this person," you wish them harm, never want to speak or be around them again. It's virtually impossible, probably makes you want to laugh at the mere thought. These two emotions cannot occupy the same space. A heart filled with love has no room for hate to seep in.
So now you say but these people treat my badly and I shouldn't have to take it. And you are right you don't have to take it. You can change your mental attitude and thereby the results that show up in your life. Start today, right now, do these 3 things:
1. Get clear about what you want, who you want to be in this world, what kind of life do you want. Write it out in as much detail as possible. Not just I want to be rich and happy, we all do. But what is your definition of rich and happy.
2. Make your statements of intention or affirmations. These are more or less summaries of step 1. For example: I am now surrounded by loving caring people or Everyone is always helpful and honest. Try to start with at least 20, use them daily.
3. Take time for yourself (quiet time, me time), believe in yourself, fill yourself up with good thoughts, love and kindness. Like an empty vase that you fill with water, once it is filled to the brim it will overflow and water will get on everything and go everywhere.
These three things will bring about pleasant changes. Negative people will disappear or move out of your life. You'll find that you spend less and less time around those who would hurt or belittle you. It won't matter what others are thinking because you will have enough love and kindness to give away.
So now the question is not even; Why do I hate myself? But how can I love more?
Copyright (c) 2007 Priscilla Parham
Article Source: http://www.wellnessarticles.net
By: Priscilla Parham
You've met these people before, we all have, maybe you have even fallen victim to this kind of thought or vocalization yourself a time or two. Something doesn't go your way, you didn't get the result you wanted. People you care about leave you out or forget to include you in a particular event. It could be the negative feelings you get from your co-workers, the lack of response you get from your neighbors. You are passed over for a promotion, your friend gets all the guys or girls. The list goes on and on, it is endless.
Why do people hate me?
Is it because I'm black, I'm white, I'm a minority, I'm a woman, I'm short, I'm fat, I'm gay, I'm poor, I'm uneducated, I'm a single parent, I'm pretty, I'm ugly, I'm too old, I'm too young? This list goes on and on, and is endless as well.
The simple truth is people don't hate you, it is you who hates yourself. I hear people say "Oh, but you don't know my circumstances." I don't need to know your circumstances however grim, honest and factual they may be.
As the saying goes you get back what you give or you reap what you sow, this all amounts to the Law of Attraction. A happy, healthy, content mind cannot attract hate, it is a universal impossibility. So the question is not, Why do people hate me? But now becomes "Why do I hate myself."
The answer to this question doesn't require that you lie upon a couch and give a minute by minute dissertation on your life story or go on a quest for why your mother didn't love you enough. From this point forward you and only you are responsible for your life and how you feel about it's unfoldment. However, it does require that you do some inside "work" on yourself, on your mental attitude. How you see yourself is a direct reflection on who and what will show up in your life.
Let's try this simple exercise. Close your eyes and try to blank your mind for just a minute. Now think about someone you love very dearly, they mean a lot to you, remember the good times, the laughs, the hugs, the smiles, the talks. Now try to think "I absolutely hate this person," you wish them harm, never want to speak or be around them again. It's virtually impossible, probably makes you want to laugh at the mere thought. These two emotions cannot occupy the same space. A heart filled with love has no room for hate to seep in.
So now you say but these people treat my badly and I shouldn't have to take it. And you are right you don't have to take it. You can change your mental attitude and thereby the results that show up in your life. Start today, right now, do these 3 things:
1. Get clear about what you want, who you want to be in this world, what kind of life do you want. Write it out in as much detail as possible. Not just I want to be rich and happy, we all do. But what is your definition of rich and happy.
2. Make your statements of intention or affirmations. These are more or less summaries of step 1. For example: I am now surrounded by loving caring people or Everyone is always helpful and honest. Try to start with at least 20, use them daily.
3. Take time for yourself (quiet time, me time), believe in yourself, fill yourself up with good thoughts, love and kindness. Like an empty vase that you fill with water, once it is filled to the brim it will overflow and water will get on everything and go everywhere.
These three things will bring about pleasant changes. Negative people will disappear or move out of your life. You'll find that you spend less and less time around those who would hurt or belittle you. It won't matter what others are thinking because you will have enough love and kindness to give away.
So now the question is not even; Why do I hate myself? But how can I love more?
Copyright (c) 2007 Priscilla Parham
Article Source: http://www.wellnessarticles.net
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